Behind Every Man: Finding My Motivation and Drive to Make This Career Change

We have all probably heard the saying before that “Behind every great man, is a great woman.” This saying essentially says that every man is held up by a woman in his life, whether it is his mom, girlfriend or wife. While I do not think it is entirely accurate, in my situation I cannot help but to feel this is correct.

For the last 11+ years, I have been working in Tech/Business. My very first job was an entry level contract position at Google and I have been working my way up the corporate ladder (at various companies) since then. I started at Google right out of college and found it to be very exciting while I was there. However, even during this time, there was a part of me that was not happy. Not satisfied. I found an email I had written to my Dad a month or so after I left Google expressing my unhappiness in the corporate world. At the time I looked into going back to school as well as joining the Fire Academy. However I have outstanding injuries from my career as a collegiate swimmer and figured I would not pass a physical. I also discussed this with my then fiance (now wife) and she was very understanding and at the time encouraged me to do something I enjoyed. I looked into some options at the time, but as I have discussed in other blog posts, I felt stuck. I was engaged to be married to the woman of my dreams and all I wanted in life was to make her happy, support her and give her everything I felt she deserved. At this time, I decided the best option for me was to stick it out in the corporate world, find a job I enjoyed and make my money.

For years I bounced around between jobs, focusing on what parts I enjoyed, and trying to “fix” the areas that made me unhappy, After 11 years of this, I have found that overall, this line of work just isn’t for me. I had to find my passion. This is where the title of this blog post comes in. For me, my motivation and my change came from my wife.

A few years ago, my wife started a side business making hair accessories for kids. it started out slow, but as it grew I could see her excitement with it. Over time we discusses what she wanted out of this and what she wanted to do. At the time, she told me her goal was to build the company up enough that she no longer had to work her day to day job, could potentially get enough people to help run the company, that she could spend more time at home with the kids. As her business grew, I enjoyed very much helping her, build the business and achieve her dreams. I worked harder to find a better job for myself so that I could help support her and to help her quit her day to day and go with this full time. Near the end of 2015, we realized how closer we were. But we also needed more space. My wife’s business was taking up a good portion of our house, and with our growing family we needed more space. I was thinking about leaving my job then to do what I am doing now, but we needed the money to buy a bigger house and to help her expand. Last year we not only were able to buy a new house, but my wife was able to quit her job and do her side business full time! The drive and motivation she has shown over the last few years to get something she wanted, gave me the motivation to escape my unhappiness in the corporate world, and to do what I needed to find that occupational pleasure I was missing (which was ultimately spreading negativity to the rest of my life).

I have discussed this at length with my wife as well, and have her full support in going back to school and that we will be able to make it work. And while there are some other unforeseen circumstances that have come into this, and she has been on the fence for some time whether or not she made the right decision, I feel that had she not made this move, she may have always regretted.  I cannot thank her enough for her support and her leading by example.

Everyone finds motivation in different places in their life. Some have a friend or family member. Others loo up to those trailblazers and leaders of their field of interest. Where do you find your motivation? What is your inspiration. Feel free to share your thoughts and comments below!

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9 thoughts on “Behind Every Man: Finding My Motivation and Drive to Make This Career Change

  1. Your story sounds like so many I know in the corporate world. Like you, I spent too many years chasing a career that made me miserable (Wall Street). It takes a lot of courage to make a complete career change. It’s not smooth sailing the first year out, but worth it because your heart sings with joy that you are pursuing what your soul wants, who your soul needs to be. Good luck on your journey!!!

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  2. I totally get this. My husband left his “good job” in the corporate world back in 2005 to follow his dream. I switched from part-time pharmacist to full time pharmacist with two small children to allow him to do that. It wasn’t always easy, and at times painful but we would have regretted not trying. Fast forward ten years later, it’s my turn. I recently left a profession I never loved to pursue my passions. The unexpected will turn up, doubt will creep in, yet in the end you will have no regrets and be very glad you took the leap of faith. In our case it eventually worked out for the best. Be patient and don’t give up. It works its way out in the end.

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  3. I am on the path fresh out of uni, towards a career in advertising, and at the age of 22 already find myself regularly thinking, god what if this isn’t what I am meant to be doing?!
    I really felt inspired by this piece. I admire your courage, and your understanding of your own happiness is really admirable. Those are two things I regularly check: is anything I am scared of stopping me from doing something? And, would I be happier doing something differently? Seems to be working well so far!
    I wish you the best of luck. Am now a follower so look forward to reading more!

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    • Hello, I am so glad you found this helpful! Hopefully I can continue to inspire you on my journey. As of now, the best advice I can offer is to take your time. You are young and there is no rush. Explore your interests and what your future could be. Prioritize what is important to you and see what lines up. Wishing you all the best!!

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